“When conflicts occur, often as a result of miscommunication, partners are likely to blame each other rather than to think of the conflict as a problem that can be solved. As difficulties arise and hostilities and misunderstandings proliferate, partners lose sight of the positive things their mate provides and represents—somebody to support them, to enhance their experiences, to share in building a family. Ultimately they may doubt the relationship itself and so foreclose on the opportunity to unravel the knots that twist their understandings."
Love Is Never Enough
─ Aaron Beck
當發生衝突
—常常是出於錯誤的溝通—
伴侶之間很容易怪罪彼此，
而不是將衝突視為一道可以被解決的題目。
隨著困難加增並且伴隨著高漲的敵意和誤解，
伴侶們會看不見另一半所提供的正面價值和意義—
一個可以支持他們的人、
一個增添他們閱歷的人、
一個一起打造一個家的人。
最後，他們會對這段關係產生疑惑，
也因而提前放棄了那個能解開他們思考僵局的機會。
《只有愛永遠不夠》
─ Translated by Yi-Chien, Chen
Keywords: relationship, psychology, intimacy, conflicts, support, couples, communication
關鍵字：衝突, 責備, 怪罪, 爭吵, 是非對錯, 錯誤的溝通, 經營, 價值, 意義, 眼光